Pensacola, Florida
Friday June 23rd 2017


Health Talk: FamiliesFirst Network

Health Talk: FamiliesFirst Network Adoption Counselor Cathleen Menda and Associate Adoption Coordinator Peggy Custred

Menda has been working with Families First Network for six years as an adoption counselor. She has worked as an investigator with Department of Children and Families, opened her home to foster children and even adopted one of those children. As a single parent of twothe oldest is biological Menda understands the trials and tribulations of parenthood. Custred prepares families to understand what will be expected of them when they choose to adopt or foster a child. She coordinates events at the Heart Gallery, where you can see pictures and bios of children waiting for homes.

IN: What are the requirements to adopt or foster children?
CUSTRED: There is no set age (other than being over 21) or housing requirement. Were just looking for folks who are flexible and committed. It doesnt cost anything to adopt through us. You dont have to pay for the classes (a 30-hour training program and adoptive home study) or the lawyers. Those who have been convicted of a violent crime cannot adopt.

IN: What is one piece of advice youd like to give to those hoping to adopt?
MENDA: That its not a super-quick process. Be patient. We very often tell our parents that the child is in charge. We see how the child is doing and we have wonderful foster parents who help gage how theyre doing, if theyre having behavioral problems or are afraid. I know how hard it is. If I can do it you can, too. Adopting is probably the most important thing Ive ever done.

IN: What is the demographic of children waiting to be adopted at FamiliesFirst Network?
CUSTRED: Our focus is older children. We have children who are emotionally and/or physically handicapped. There are also siblings waiting for homes. Sometimes its hard to find a family with enough room for four or five siblings. Last year we had 173 adoptions. Theyre not bad kids, theyre survivors. Adoption is when the healing starts.

IN: Because the children are older, are they more resentful of the fact that theyre up for adoption?
MENDA: Some kids have spent the majority of their life in the foster care system. Theyre old enough to understand. When they say they dont want to be adopted, what theyre really saying is that they dont want to be rejected.

IN: When a child asks his/her adoptive or foster parent questions, what should they say?
MENDA: It depends on the situation. The children we deal with have been abused and neglected. With younger children you have to decide whats appropriate to tell them and whats not. Dont talk about biological parents. Children hold their parents on a pedestal. Theyll understand as they get older.

IN: What is your goal for the children you work for at FamiliesFirst Network?
CUSTRED: Once a judge makes the decision to take a child out of their home, according to federal law we have 12 months to make permanent plans for the child. We want them to go home. Thats where they want to be, thats where they should be. We work very hard with families through counseling, parenting and drug abuse classes. We usually have 20 or 30 children who dont have identified families. Their biological parents parental rights have been terminated, foster families wont adopt and they have no relatives. Its my responsibility to help find a family. We know they are very special families out there. We need to get the word out that there are more kids waiting. Our families are the ones who help our children. When kids get settled, thats when they heal. Thats the miracle.

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